Imagine~
At a beach alone....wind blow...hmm....so peace in my heart...

Friendship last long? Friend forever?

I never believe that friendship will last longer. It will end  fast when we stop communicate 0r keep in touch with others. It is harc to maintain the relationship between you and others. I do appreciated and blessed the time with anyone of my friends.During my early childhood education, nursery, i met some new friends, but now i totally forgot who are they, i just remember one or two of them. My primary school friends can said that is a lot, since that i was the prefect that time, many of them scare to near me because im too fierce. But i found a trust worthy friend, she is a karate girl, she is so good to me. Now i still keep in touch with most of them, they din't change so much, i still can recognise them. My secondary school friends is not so many because we are all in gang, but i knew many senior and junior friends since i joined Girl's brigade . The seniors were so kind to me, during school time before lesson start, i will find them for a talk. Hmm, now i almost forgot who are they. College friends also not so many , but it is okey for me .
Every new environment , i meet new friends, and forget old friends, it is usual because we are human being. Friend doesn't last long , but they will remain in my journey of life. Just live simply and be happy always ...

My life had changed

People might feel weird and worry about me because i seldom talk and seldom smile now. I even like to be alonoe sometime in College. Don't Know why...I just feel that i outdated, hard to catch up with others friends that around me. Maybe what they discuss now only for their group performance and etc which i do not have a chance to talk and give an opinion ...Hmm, sometime is better keep silence and listen. Although they don't know, as usual, they will always invite me out for tea or "yum cha". But i think there is no any meaning for me if i just listen what they talk only. It feel  that im useless there.So, i always decide to say No to them.Maybe this can't or hard to turn back to last time. This is my problem, because i feel hard to communicate with them. Hmm, someone might say me always so pessimistic, think negatively...But i don't think so, maybe i just a different type of people compare to them. Mute always pop up in my mind when i can't continue what they say. Get used to it.

I will try to find others people that more suitable to talk with me now, although the conversation is blank, but it is better then hard to communicate. I will always find something to do to avoid Boredom. I really feel thankful and appreciated some of my friends, they brought me to jog and etc, made me tired and stop thinking nonsense. Jogging is good for health,since long time i din't jog, so it is hard to jog a long distance. Thanks for their patient who accompany me all the way.

Give me some time to turn all things become normal again. Friends become usual and etc. I felt sorry to my friends that i always disturb them this few days. Without them , I still emo here.

About my 2nd years study, i felt tired and sometime feel interesting for what i had learn. Japanese is the most interesting subject for me, this is the 1st foreign language I am learning from zero. Commercial Law in Malaysia is quite boring but i like to study the cases of the Law, so many interesting stories that i can learn from it. Basic Management principal is the subject that almost similar with the pervious subject that i learn before, I still no yet to start doing revision for it. English for business is hard , especially for the assignment, so many parts we need to do and combine to form a report. Human Resource Management is still Okey for me, but i feel a bit bored in the class.

Hmm, all my secondary classmates went back to Sandakan, I miss them so much but i don't have a chance to meet them. I got five days holidays but i still don't know how to use it , I hope i have a good health, don't always sick or stomach ache .Live with no heart is good or bad? I still thinking about it. I feel happy that my friend finally can overcome it. I have no worry now.

A friend's leg got injured ,pray that he can recover soon,i miss vanessa suddenly, i hope she can meet some new friends in a new class. Gambatte Vanessa, we still can out to "yum cha" if got right time, i won't forgot you, and ur little dolphin still in my hand, i hope can pass it to you soon.

有意义

你留下了什么……
生命多少用时间计算，生命价值用贡献计算。

为自己和对方留一点余地
无论你怎么发怒，都不要做出任何无法挽回的事来。

骄傲使一个人停止学习
智慧人喜欢学习，可是愚味者却喜欢教导。

从各种角度去学习
我还没有遇到一个无知道我不能从他身上学到任何东西的人。

确立一个清楚的目标
没有一定的目标，智慧会哀失：
哪儿都是目标，也就是根本没目标。

努力实行自己说过的话
别人不是以我们说了什么，而是以我们做了什么来衡量我们

走对的路也当走完路
跑应跑的路已经不容易，跑道尽头则更难。

世界闷闷的，可以做什么呢？啊哈哈……

寂寞了，找谁来陪？大家都忙着……
怎么了？突然间静静的。
找谁好？不知道……到不能太靠近，免得误会。
要习惯，就好了

完

MCD ^^

Today went to Mcdonald with Friends, MR J and MR K...Haha...this is the 2nd time i go out with them just for Mcd XD...How to say...today i feel ok than last few days. Don't know why, but i felt sorry to ah Heng and Michael...thanks for everything.. Hmm,i also felt sorry to whom i hurt them before, I am not purposely do that,but i just dont know why suddenly become like that. But I hope all will back to normal after some days.

People around the world nervous and fear about tomorrow. 521 , they predict this is the judgement Day.. Jesus will come down to the world and bring the person who believe in him to heaven and the others will be suffer in hell... I cant believe that will happen. So , i dont know want to believe for the prediction or not. Lord,i hope that i have another day of my life .I only believe in you.

Aiz...sorry to my friends because dint join you guys to play bowling...ahaha, you all know that i hate bowling...and today i really so tired because woke up so early to wash the clothes,Do enjoy there..

i believe that i stilll have life for tomorrow and the future...

Photo photo XD

I know what should i Do

Everytime when i really need someone to talk to, friends or what....they sure offline...LOL, i should get use to it...I cant depend on others . Sometime, i just want to solve the problem all by myself.  I got a feel that i will lost some friends on this month or in future. I should accept it and not to blame others. Okey... Im a youth now, I know what is right and bad, i know i cant be selfish to hold tide the friendship. Sometime let them go also a good decision.

Time will past and flies..no one know what is going on...Yet , no one will know me cry yesterday, no one will concern about that. All i can do is PRETEND Happy all the time...A fake smile better than do not smile at all...GOOD^^

Sometime is just tired to care or concern others living...Hmm, why do i care so much...later misunderstanding occur again.Then, people will just say, non of my business , you solve by your own.
Haha, sound funny yet meaningful to me...It taught me that next time I also can do like that... BINGO...
I had change alot...change to good or bad I dont know...
Forgive my fault...
LOL...一切变得没关系

怀念

一切恢复正常了，希望都好好的哦。过去就让它过去吧，我不想再去烦恼了。哈哈，终算噢给了。好不好？明天开始，要努力读书了，加油加油。朋友们也要一样加油吧。

今天与哥哥，其他亲戚朋友一别，不知几时再相逢。好怀念。好想珍惜。

原来，我真的把小时候的记忆忘掉了。真么糟糕==……啊哈哈，他们怎么能记得那么清楚。

自己也好好笑啦。回山打根既然没有和老友见面哦。糟了~~ 忘记家晨在山打根，心宜生日无法和她庆祝，Vikky找我，我又病倒了。真的LOL…..

怎么啦，回山打根真想见见很久没见的祥俊，他在家一定是发霉了。哈哈，没关系，祝福了就够了，希望他好好的。

何时再能回家，哈哈，要搭飞机，还是坐巴士？？哈哈，我好像怕搭飞机了==要保重了^^想念你们哦，我的家人^^

Lolx..my brothers and my liang moi sister XD

Ahaha, nothing to do...just simply took it XD

Grandma's Puding and GuaiLinGou

Uncle Chong...video men XD

my lovely Granpa n Grandma used iPhone4 ...LOL...XD

何时再相逢？

没想到外公外婆已有六十年婚姻了。多恩爱~我么一家大小都到齐了。多月没见的哥哥也给我见到了。多开心~哈哈，大大的家庭里，除了表哥以外，大家都出席。见到大家喜洋洋的脸，我也开始献上感恩。感谢上帝那美好的看顾，让我们一家人再相遇。我们何时又可以相遇呢？好期待。

Am I okey? Are you ok?

最近我都怎么了？转运？没好运，却越转越坏，变成了坏运==,都怎么了，没有一件好事发生，坏事滚滚来。我可以喊吗？啊！！！！！！！！！！！！！！！！！！！好想滚，滚回家。T.T...怎么不能做好人？没做什么又被人误会，让我做坏人吧，坏人重来不怕人家误会。让我心凝固吧，我宁愿做个冷血动物。把我心拿走吧，我宁愿没有心。原来没有心是那么好的，我不会去同情人，也没有感觉。啊哈哈，以前做人做得太好了，现在做坏人吧....

可真倒霉，今天差一点点回不了家，差一点点哭了。那个车子又出事==,什么啦......我无话可说。啊哈哈，车子热坏了，温度高盛！！我还可以笑得出，知道为什么吗？我姑丈去开那个水箱，哈哈，那水喷射的好快，他逃不到，结果全身湿透了XD ，啊哈哈哈！！！

朋友们最近也活得不好，帮不了，因为没有心了
好吧，要哭的，不爽的，要骂的，失恋的，妒嫉的，埋怨的，都怪我好了，因为我没心了，感觉不到

刚才一个人到超级市场，好好笑哦。慢慢走的，无忧无虑，因为没有心了，感觉不到那寂寞，习惯就好

我的心，何时回来？不懂，哈哈。

My small small world

Many things happen in these few days, hmm...I dont know how to describe and expain it, it is quiet long and complicated story.For the outcome learning is do not ever and never too close with opposite sex, it is because it will make the friendship end. I felt very sorry about someone, do not know why, I always hurt someone that I close with them...I just need very best friends. Maybe my selfishness will hurts their feeling, but i know what am i doing.I will be a bad girl next time. Dont so near me.>< No heart no heart == Now, i just want to finish my diploma. Relationship just put behind 1st or let God decide. Haha...how to say, God really want me to learn something from that.Wrong timing , wrong person, wrong feel ><

Gosh... really complicated , i hate this problem...Please go away from me 1st . Ahaha, dont talk about that 1st.

Orientation week, lolx..kinda fun, i met many juniors XD

All handsome and beauty, haha...i felt happy that i got chance to get to know them for the 1st n 2nd day of orientation due to Shuk Ling assistant unable to come. Ahaha, my group is SAGITTARIUS, and another group is AQUARIUS, hehe, ran to this group and that group..so fun XD...Wow, Michael's group(Aquarius) so active, they won the 1st place of explorace and challange games, 2nd place for treasure hunt...My group also not bad, they won a 1st place of treasure hunt and 3rd place of explorace, if I not forgotten XD..

Started to worry about thier performance...Hope Michael and Shuk ling can handle it well ^^Gambateh..

LOUSY RESULT!!!!

GO TO DIE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I DONT WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!USELESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!BODOH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!UNFAIR WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!GO AWAY PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!LEAVE ME ALONE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I AM NOBODY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I AM NOT SOMEBODY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HEARTLESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!CARELESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!SELFISH HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CANＩSHOUT????

HEY WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
REALLY UNFAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHAT THE EARTH YOU WANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
REALLY TIRED ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!GET AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!IDIOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!LOUSY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!MANDY LO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Choco XD

haha, very thanks to Ah Kang for bought chocolate to me , there is too many , yum yum, althought i cant eat too much at one time but i will everyday enjoy it...Hope it wont CHUT SHI after that....^^, the choco is nice..

话已经说得明白了，虽然不直接，但我知道……
算了吧，emo两天应该够了，
总好比用几百年的时间吧。
暂时放下吧。

The 1st day of May 2011 in KK

Planed to wake up by 5am this morning but my grandma called me up at 4.45am. So touched..
Prepared all things and get ready for the time go to the airport.
Received a message from one of my friend,thanks for caring

TIme to go to the airport......
T.T...heart feel sad...so good that if i dont have to leave Sandakan.

Airport, i saw Lilian with her sister,Elaine that going to study in TARC , Ahaha... met a junior name heng Boon Miah, Same flight...XD
I went to washroom with Elaine , saw a women holding her luggage and together brought inside the toilet. We laugh XD ahaha...like crazy==

Inside the plane, got two strong guy sit beside me, i cant stand for their perfumes...==
luckly next to my sit got three empty sit, so i stand up and move myself to the next sit...Seriously, i feel unsafe everytime i take plane== Don't know why XD

After arrived, my uncle came to picked me up used unknown car==, so curious about it but i dint ask him>< until i arrived home, i saw my little proton wira gone. My maid toold me that the car went to workshop, But i don't know what actually the problem is XD. Don't care

At 1st , i settle all my things properly and i took out my lappy for online...
In the same why, i called Carry for a help, really feel not so good to pick me up on the 1st day of orientation...thanks alot.

i suddenly remember today Joshua them will go to college to decorate the CF broad, i straight away call Gor Gor Zai for help, thanks for his kindness XD. At last, we failed to go to college due to today is public holiday, we went to eat lunch and discuss something important, after that we went to buy some materials for the decoration...

Suddenly Michael called me for going out with them to centre point, Michael and ah Kang, sorry about that , due to the insufficient transportation that kk have==, i really want to join if i can easily get back to my home. I feel that Michael got something very important to ask me or to tell me><, beside, he is sick, sore throat but he still so "liar" in chinese word><...

Yee yee feel unhappy today, hope she can be stronger and stronger t face her problem, take good care and god bless her ^^

How do you completely get over someone you love but they in relationship with other person?

Since nothing to do, or too bored, i found out something interesting to learn or to read, here, i hare with you all, the is copy and paste from the website...It seen uselful to us when we face the same problem XD.It quite long but ...haha, just read for your own ...^^

• Ask yourself what might be in his head or his heart; it takes two people to be in a relationship and even though you feel the way that you do, maybe it was meant to be this way. Save your love for someone who feels the same way about you!

• In my case, I know I deserve better. I tell myself "He isn't worth my love, he's too young to realize what he's doing to me so I guess that's that."

• It's not about getting over a person, it's about feeling good about yourself. It's about knowing that you are the most important and you need to be happy. If this other person doesn't feel the same way, it doesn't really matter.

• This situation is always an unfortunate one. It is ideal for 2 people to love each other the same, and at the same pace, but life is never ideal. To get this kind of relationship to work, you need patience! you have to weigh either waiting for her or moving on as options. If your feelings are real, and you choose to hang in there, you must not scare her away with your feelings! If things are meant to work out, you should be great friends before lovers anyway. While you let both your feelings reach equilibrium, you'll find it becomes easier sometimes just to ignore your strong feelings for her and just kick-back and chill with her. It's not always important to impress her, or do nice things for her in a loving way. It may give you hope to know that she can see you in the same light, just not so quickly.

• Tough circumstance - being in love with someone who does not feel the same way as you do. It's not a problem - you can fix those, this is almost like "it's raining outside" - just have to deal. Objective advice: If someone doesn't feel the same way as you do - walk off. Don't even give them the privilage of friendship because you'll suck yourself back into the delusion. Do things for yourself, keep busy, bury yourself in work and keep searching for what you really want and need. Don't do what I have done.

• Firstly, love is a peculiar thing. There is an almost ludicrous asymmetry between two people. The person at the top of your best friend list may rank you only at the middle of his or her list. However, if you truly, truly loved someone, then you'd be able to realise that it's OK if they don't love you back. True love gives and expects nothing in return; a true unrequited love. So, I've moved on from my perfect potential companion. He gave me the strength to realise that I can move on. He gave me the courage to try something different. He gave me the wisdom and sense for me to also respect myself. So, if you truly loved them, it doesn't matter if they feel the same way, your love conquers all.

• It is strange when u r hurting from rejection, to hear someone say move on things will be fine. No matter how much u love him, He never loves u back. For all those wondering what went wrong Just stop wondering say it really aloud "HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU". Only when one stops chasing and pursing someone who doesn't love you, will you open the door to that perfect person who will love you back with the same intensity that you will love him.

• If you belive in destiny then you have know that things happen when they are meant to be. People part for reasons beyond human comprehension but the reality remains if you are meant to love each other and be with each other, it will happen. That's the power of destiny. Love always wins. Love is important and only it counts.

• The older I get, the more I believe that some people are full of the capacity to love - like me - and others are incapable of it in the romantic sense, for whatever reason. Fear of committment. A distorted view of freedom. The desire to stay young forever? A deep unwillingness to give themselves over to another (aka, selfish)? It is an absolute rock and a hard place. Loving someone who doesn't love you back is the most impossible situation imaginable, especially when the love is so strong you are a slave to it.

• I am going through this right now. For those of you whose situation is similar, this is what I suggest: Deal with reality. Stop hoping, dreaming, etc. Pray and tell God that you forgive them for not being able to love you. Ask God to take this from you - and He will. Then continue to deal with reality. Don't tell yourself, maybe someday... they'll change... True love accepts the person for who they are, even when they are evil and they don't love you. It means accepting reality. When you love and accept reality at the same time, you are forced to move on. When you deal with reality and move on without love, you take bitterness with you. When you love without dealing with reality, you hurt yourself. Love the other person, Accept the reality and pray to God for the wisdom and strength you'll need to do that continuously until it ceases to become a problem.

• Try not to be in contact cos its almost like an addiction. You think that one little text will do no harm but the pain when he doesn't reply will just make things worse. That would be my advice.

• There is one more thing I can recommend. There are times when you feel very weak and feel you need to talk to that other person even though they may have just hurt you again, you don't know why you want to talk to them, you just do. I've been able to get by these weak moments by writing down exactly what I'm feeling at the time, it comes out in a jumble of feelings and thoughts, some not so pleasant, but in the end it actually helps and I don't feel to call the person anymore. For everyone out there, keep strong and keep your head up, there are better days ahead.

• Tough one. If we know for a fact there is no hope for a mutual love, then why torture yourself. Move on. Treat it like a divorce. FORCE yourself to live and keep meeting people. You owe it to yourself to be avaiable for when the right person does come along. Love is like a bus stop, there's always going to be another opportunity for the bus to stop again -- if we are ready for it at the bus stop. Sometimes we don't ever think we could possibly find someone better than that one we are in love with that doesn't return the love back, but that's not true. We just won't be ready to find it if we are pining for a love that is not healthy or returned. We owe it to ourselves to always know we deserve what's best and healthy. Stop being around that person if at all possible. If you can't, then think in your mind about how wonderful it would be to actually find someone special that returns your love. Tell yourself that you deserve it. We can't control love no matter how hard we try. It's just one of those things, but we can choose to love again. Work out, write your thoughts on papaer and then shred it but sometimes it helps to get your thoughts out of you, in writing. It's like a release or venting. Then rip it into shreds and flush it or shred it so it can't be found to possibly humiliate you later.

• Staying busy can help a lot, but late at night, driving down the road, or at times when we can think are hard so blast some music, turn the tv up, read a book, watch a movie, take a night class, spend more time with friends, join an email group with those who share an interest. .. whatever, do things to force your mind not to be hurting for that other person. Don't ask yourself why you were not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, sexy enough, etc. Don't beat yourself up over something that didn't work out. If you made mistakes and were responsible for killing it. Painful as it is, learn from those mistakes. Don't make them again. We all have had heartaches that hurt bad and SUCK! A broken heart is never fun. Life goes on. We have to as well. We owe it to ourselves to know we simply go on. We will meet another person but we shouldn't while we are hurting. We'll often end up not being as clear headed. We want someone to love us and to feel wanted, but that's a potential for another mess. Or, you could end up hurting someone they way you were hurt. When your heart is mended, you'll know. Every single day we get just a tiny bit better. Ok, maybe not every day, but if we can just make it from one day to the next and keep doing it, pretty soon we will feel better, if only a little, but that's a start to total healing.

• Time. Letting yourself grieve and actually being ok with that. Not forcing yourself to get over someone. Allow yourself to feel the hurt, cry, write about it, listen to sad songs. Soon you will feel so tired from hurting all of the time. You will be ready to move forward. Doing this without contact of the person you love is best. Anyone that will still see you, sleep with you, and spend time with you, knowing they don't love you, and knowing how you feel, is selfish. Everyone deserves more than that. You can't force love out of your heart so don't try, that just hurts worse and you end up lying to yourself. You are human for loving, but you have to love yourself more. I do agree with comments on staying busy, friends and family also help. Casual dating can backfire however, because if the dates don't go well, it will just make you miss the person you love even more. Pray, and remember the good times but learn from the bad. Don't you want, one day, to be truly happy? Life is to short to give up the chance of true love for yourself. Go out into the world and continue to be the wonderful person that you are. Someone will see this, and love you just as much as you are capable of loving.

• You accept yourself as you are, love yourself for who you are, forgive yourself for decisions and actions that have brought you pain, never settle for anything less then what you desire and deserve. Love is all about timing, make yourself the best person you can be both mentally and physically and do it for yourself no man. Once you do that, you will no longer waste your time on men who do not see you for who you are. You will see yourself as a beautiful women that has so much to offer the right man. But to be able to get over lost love you have to be able to forgive yourself, whether it was your fault or not for the break up. You also must make a concious effort to get him out of your life. Keeping him as a friend will bring only more pain, this is from experience. Let him go, delete his name off your cell phone off your email, put the pictures away. It is your choice to be miserable about the situation, which for the first few months everyone choses to be sad. I chose to be sad for 5 months when the man I loved dumped me. But you can also make the choice to be happy, but only you can do that. You have one life why sit there and waste it on a man who can't see all facets of your beauty. You have one life to be happy, love yourself, forgive yourself and you will see that that love will radiate and men will be attracted to that. Good men will be attracted to your postive self worth. And that positive self worth gets rid of all the bagage from past relationships that ruin current ones. But this is a choice, a concious choice to leave the past and be happy and only you can make it. Know it wont be easy, but in the end you will have the love you have always desired.

• All you can do is take it a day at a time and pray for strength.

• You have to decide that there is now another step to climb in your life. There will always be happiness around the corner, everyone finds it. Happiness WILL come and find you. I wish you all the best for the future, keep smiling.

• Time is the key. When you love someone you must know when it is time to let go. As hard as this may sound, strength, courage and knowledge is gathered from a broken heart. No one promised that love would last forever, nor that it wouldn't, it's just a chance. Life is a chance. Love yourself, pray, not only for you, but for that person as well. Never let bad feelings or experience change the person you are. No one wants a wounded bird, so understand that you need time to heal internally. There is no set time on when this will happen, but just let it take it's course. When the time is right, and you feel like you are ready to love again, don't look for it, let it find you. Keep God first, and never question his work. We will never know what the man has in store, and who is to say that you two won't love again, when the time is right, or maybe you both have matured. Life is short, so enjoy and savor your breath. Your battle is not lost, you are just beginning to live. God bless you and keep you strong.

• This is not an easy question, and the answer is complex. I have several substrate beliefs that will take me where I am going to go. First, how you feel or don't feel about another says much about you. How they respond, says something about them. Think about that deeply. You may or may not know all of your reasons for feeling the way you do about that person. I suspect you may not have the whole story about them. Consider yourself for a moment. Is the first person of this personality type you have loved or is this a pattern? If it is a pattern, are you getting yourself involved with unavailable individuals? If so, you may need to look deeply at your motivation in choosing that type of person and why you are attracted to them. Now, lets look a them. Now, if you clearly did some misdeed that caused the breakup, you may have to live with it. That person may not trust you again. If you have not done anything of that sort, and you are blaming your self for something minor like "saying was instead of were." Then, you need to access if that person has some deeper issue that may not have anything to do with you directly. If they have issues, it is best to let them have the space to address them. It may take years. There is a song which has the lyric, "I can't make you love me, if you don't. You can't make your heart feel something it won't." You can give of yourself and offer your love and support. If that person does not, can not, or will not love you back, then there is nothing you can do about it. That is their choice. And you really do not want them unless they truly loved you in return, right? Now, do not think ill of that person. The care that person has for you may be all they have to give and they are just being honest. Now back to you. I am of the belief that "Love Never Fails." I believe that once you love someone it does not die. But I believe that love is about giving and not getting. You must give them their request. That is in many ways a great gift of love, a gift of respect. You will have to go on. Time will heal you wounds. Allow yourself to sorrow and feel the pain now for the time of grief will pass. You will learn to live with the loss. You will always love that person, but that does not mean you will not love again!

• You have no choice but to get over this person... let them go and move on. 

• The answer is that there is no remedy or procedure to get over someone completely. It is not as simple as performing a few tasks or reading a certain book. From my experience only time will assist you in getting over a love in your life. Now the trick is this person must me completely out of your life to completely get over him or her. If this person remains in your life then time will never start the healing process. It took me exactly one year to get over someone I loved very much. It can be done, and in life this process can happen more than once, so learn from the mistakes you make in one relationship and apply them to the next.

• Surround yourself in mates, journals journals journals, I play guitar which helps, and something really important; at least for a while, ALLOW yourself to be depressed, its inevitable your going to be! so fighting it just gets you mad and frustrated. Music helps A LOT.

• The main advice I can give, which isn't much at this stage, is FOCUS. That's what you need. For days I was sitting around at home crying and getting stressed, I became depressed, couldn't eat and my dreams were haunted by my ex. But I got a job, decided to start work out and begun to get focused on life.

• "You never stop loving someone; you just learn to live without them."

• Free your mind from worries. Live simple. Give more. Expect less.

• There is no easy way to get over someone, but you will get over them. The time it takes varies from person to person and depends on how close you were to the person you're trying to get over with. It's hard work to get over someone. The reason is you have to begin weeding them out of your life, and stop contacting them if you are, if they keep contacting you, then take longer and longer to get back to them. Remember to remain detached. Over time you'll go through the different stages of feeling where you get to the point of anger, in that you begin asking yourself, "why am I continuing to beat myself up over someone who clearly isn't interested, if they were, they're not anymore, I've done everything I can to show I'm interested and I keep getting knocked down." You will realize it's not worth it. Life is too short and their are millions of people out there, one who will love you completely, the way you love them. If you made some mistakes in the previous union, you'll know what they are and will do your best to avoid doing them again.

• Forget about him for a while and get a new bf. Just say u have never met the guy u love and say that u love him more. Then kiss him and go up to who ever u like and, "do u wanna go out again or not because I am in love with u so much that i cant stay away from u." Then say (if u want to or not) "Ill do anything for u".

• Maybe you should really think, are they the one for me, and do i really love them? 
  
• I know that when you love someone it's always going to be hard getting over them, especially when they loved you too. like for instance i once dated this guy 5 times and we were in love but every time we had a fight we broke up and most of the time the fights were for very stupid things. and i right now have a new boyfriend and he loves me but im not sure i love him because i still love my ex but he now loves my best friend and it has been a long time since i last dated him and in that period of time he had 3 girlfriends and i have only had 1 boyfriend and the 3 people he dated were all my best friends and now he is currently single but like a ton of people like him so i would totally recommend to get a new boyfriend and if that doesnt help try talking to him and telling him how you really feel or you could always try to look your very hottest and that may help but its not the best approach also you could try to flirt with him but dont make it too obvious and while your flirting with him make a few jokes and if he laughs you laugh too and see if he can make you feel like your walking on air and if he doesnt get a new boyfriend 
  Try to forget him/her and distract yourself. 
  
• Spend time with your same-sex friends, watch TV or movies, read books. Under no circumstance have contact with him/her. That means no texts, no face-to-face contact, no email, no social networking, nothing. If you're close friends, just avoid him/her. Next, try to find someone else, not necessarily to replace them, but just so you can have feelings for someone else. Don't have a one-time fling, however. 
  
• The thing you should ask yourself is if it's necessary that the person whom you love should always love you back? 
  
• If you love someone then you should know that you would never force your love to do something... these things are always natural which comes with the glimpse of feelings and you have to give time... everything will be alright. 
  
• You don't, I guess; you just sort of learn to live with it. And if you can't, then just try to suck it up. 
  
• Yes. You can love this person - not be in love with them. Think of the negatives about that person, think of better people out there, think that this person isn't worth your time. People say it helps to get another partner. Most importantly, pray to get over this person so you can move on. 
  
• Try your best to forget about that person. It may seem hard, but there are ways to forget the person by trying to go out more often with other friends, making a new hobby, or simply just meeting new people. Another good way is to avoid communicating with the person as much as possible - no texting or calling them. 
  
• Time. Everything takes time. Either way, it'll take a lot of time if you really love him. Don't harm yourself either. It's not worth it. Just try to get rid of everything and anything that reminds you of him/her and try to stay away. 
  
• Personally, I find that you don't. No matter how long you wait, you will always love them just that little bit! 
  
• Well I have got over my first love by meeting someone new and much better. Now I'm so glad that I am over him and am in love with someone 10 times better!! 
  
• It is not a problem to allow someone to leave your life... know in your heart YOU are better off! I have learned this and learned self respect as well! I am deeply in love now and I am loved beautifully in return! We each have someone out there! KNOW THAT and LOVE YOURSELF!